Dressing for a Date When You’re Not Sure It Will Lead Anywhere

Don’t go if you have a bad feeling about the date. If you’re undecided, take the chance. The easy-to-wear look is coming back in style. Wear what feels comfortable. 

In 2023, almost 60 million Americans used dating services or more than 17% of the population. Ten percent of partnered adults (i.e. living together or married) met their partner through a dating site. However, the apps aren’t without their fair share of downsides: unsolicited photos, overall disinterest, attention-seekers, and ghosting.

80% of dating app users either ghosted, were ghosted, or both  

Ghosting comes in many forms, from letting things die naturally by trailing off or no longer replying to messages, bringing communication to an abrupt end. According to a survey by Plenty of Fish, 80% of app users aged 18-33 said at least one of their relationships ended via ghosting. 

Should you go on the date? 

Dating apps let people break things off while avoiding the interpersonal and intense conflict that often accompanies face-to-face interactions. Ghosting someone may require the least effort, but being on the receiving end is not fun. If you plan to meet someone in real life, you also can’t be 100% sure they’ll show up or if it will lead to anything if they do. 

Being ghosted in real life is probably worse than online. If you have a bad feeling about the date, just don’t go. Keeping a positive mindset isn’t always the solution, and going on that date might not be worth the effort. 

If you’re undecided, take the chance and dress for success. If you usually dress casually, this might mean a tank top and jeans, or it might mean dressing up. Your comfort is the top priority here. 

You won’t be alone 

A recent survey cited by Forbes Magazine found that the easy-to-wear look is going back in style. More than 80% of participants said comfort was their top priority, ranking style and cost lower. The latest trends were essential for just 13%, and displaying a flashy brand logo was at the bottom of participants’ interests. Still, 52% said they wanted to look good, and 27% wanted to wear something that’s in style, but the days when you had to suffer to be trendy are long gone. 

You can look good but not feel that way. If you feel great, you’re likely to be perceived as good-looking. Feeling comfortable in your skin is key. Your attire should let you move with ease, especially if you have a dynamic activity planned. There is already enough discomfort. Comfortable clothes will make you feel secure, like a safety net. 

The easy-to-wear trend is popular with people of all ages, with those over 50 as keen to embrace it as everyone else.

FAQ

What do clothes reveal about your personality?

Polished, classic styles often reflect a preference for elegance, sophistication, and timeless fashion. Edgy, bold choices may indicate a rebellious spirit and a powerful desire for self-expression.

Should you go on a date if you’re not sure?

The first date reveals obvious incompatibilities. It wasn’t meant to be if you’re not interested after the date. According to relationship experts, if you had a good time overall but are still unsure, a second date is worth it. Studies suggest that around 20% of first dates lead to second dates. 

Can I wear jeans on a first date?

Yes, as long as they fit well and are venue-appropriate. If you want to be fashionable, some of the trends in fall 2024 include studded denim, barrel jeans, and wide-leg jeans.

Does dressing nicer make you more attractive?

It’s less the clothing itself and more the confidence that comes from being well-dressed. The person exudes confidence, making others naturally drawn to them. Women tend to associate well-dressed men with impeccable hygiene and grooming habits.

What is the best color to wear on a date?

For women, black is a timeless choice that exudes style. Blue sweaters or shirts are considered classic and safe choices for men. Blue symbolizes stability and reliability, making it an excellent option for a first date. 

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